Your purpose is not a destination. It ‘s a journey. In relation to God’s purposes for your daily life or your specific unique God-given purpose, or calling, it takes time and preparation for you to grow into your purpose. Even if you feel that you know what you were born to do, you will always be growing yourself and revealing more of your path—even changing directions altogether in different seasons.
There are 3 areas—3 C’s—to focus on cultivating to grow increasingly more into your purpose over time that most of us already know are important:
- Clarity – Growing in understanding your authentic self and what God is calling you to be and do in each stage of life
- Confidence – Growing trust in your abilities because God designed you, as well as in His guidance and power
- Community – Growing in relationship with like-minded people who have gone before you and will walk beside you
However, it is the consistent pursuit and development of these areas to build and maintain momentum on the path of purpose that often falls by the wayside.
Years may pass and we don’t know ourselves or what God is speaking to us any more than we did in the past—we lack clarity. We might find ourselves stuck in a pattern of feeling inadequate, unworthy, lost and hopeless—we lack confidence. We may perhaps find ourselves surrounded by people, yet alone on our journey of transformation and purpose because no one understands or has space in their life to support us.
Two Obstacles to Growing into Your Purpose
There are 3 categories of purpose to be aware of that God calls us to fulfill. The first is our general purpose as believers to transform ourselves and our lives and be a light to the world around us. The second is our daily purpose to align all of the areas of our life such as relationships, wellness, finances, career, etc… with God’s will for us. And the third is our specific purpose that is unique to how God designed us that we often label as our calling.
In any of these areas, being faithful to how God is calling us to live out His purposes for us, there are 2 major obstacles that stand out in hindering our consistency and forward movement.
Living out of balance leaves little space to grow into your purpose
Sometimes our lives are so busy or we are so distracted and worried about getting everything done or perfect that we don’t make it a priority to understand, develop and take steps to work on our inner life and live out the purposes God has for us. And so we may miss out on some of the promises and blessings of God available for us if we are intentional about how we spend our time and energy based on God’s will.
We may not take time to work on areas where we need to become more Christlike and unknowingly invite undesired consequences into our life, such as a broken relationship. Or perhaps we ignore an area of life that God is giving us signs to pay attention to, resulting in unhealthy physical, mental or emotional outcomes. We might delay listening to the whispers of dreams in our heart and later regret missed opportunities that could have enriched our lives or the lives of others.
Regularly taking time to assess the quantity of activities in your daily life and the quality of the fruit of those activities is critical to effectively managing time and directing outcomes. Seek God for how He wants you to balance your life and what He wants you to focus on growing within yourself and your life. This will help you to go beyond making good choices to making the best choices—not just defaulting to where life is taking you, but creating a path that is purposeful for all areas of your daily life, as well preparing for your unique calling.
God is always speaking to us about His will and purposes for us in the activities in our everyday lives. And He is always showing us ways to grow more and more into the person He’s calling us to be and the path He’s directing us to take toward our unique life’s work. To grow into our purpose, all we must do is make space in our mind, heart, spirit and daily life to listen and follow. We must seek first God’s purposes and He will guide us in being productive in the things that really matter.
Believing less than the truth about yourself or God causes loss of hope in your purpose
We always hear the phrase, “God doesn’t make mistakes.” And no matter how cliche the statement, it is the truth. Each of us is purposefully, “fearfully and wonderfully made” and God wants us to know that “full well”. However, we don’t always see that in ourselves the way God sees.
What we believe about how God sees us and His ability to use us, as well as our feelings about our own value and capabilities, significantly impacts growing into all we can become from the inside out to fully and confidently walk in God’s purposes in both our everyday life and our specific purpose. In fact, it can sometimes freeze us in our steps completely and we stop trying to seek purpose at all.
Some common thoughts we may tell ourselves…
…about daily personal and life transformation: “This is just how I am…I can’t help it…It’s impossible…Nothing can help…I’ll never change…My life will never be different.”
…about our unique calling: “I’m not good enough…I can’t do this…There’s nothing special about me…God can’t possibly use me…Who am I to help someone else?”
These types of self-limiting thoughts seep out from a heart that still has to be filled with more of the truth about God’s relationship with us, His promises and plans for us, and the value of our one-of-a-kind design by our amazing Creator.
It’s necessary to be intentional to observe our thoughts and feelings, listen to the words we speak about ourselves, and compare them to the truth of God’s word. If they don’t match what God says, then we have some inner work to do so that we can experience the peace and joy of walking in purpose.
Tips to Cultivate the 3 C’s to Grow into Your Purpose
Cultivating clarity, confidence and community are important to initiate and maintain growth toward carrying out God’s purposes. There are some things you can do to help to build more of these 3 C’s into your life.
- Get to know your God-made authentic self – Be a listener and observer of all things “you”. In your experience and from assessments where possible, take note of your personality, character traits, preferences, strengths, likes and dislikes, spiritual gifts, passions, natural abilities, what you tend to be the go-to person for, how you usually desire to help others, etc… You can learn more about how to gain clarity on your unique individual purpose in my post Practical Steps to Fulfilling Your God-Given Purpose.
- Get to know what God wants for you – Read God’s word and seek resources as needed to understand God’s will for all believers. Also pray, listen and observe to seek what God may be revealing to you about what He desires for you in your spiritual life, personal development, relationships, homemaking, career, finances, physical health, emotional and mental wellbeing, self-care, and any other areas of life relevant to the stage of life you are in.
- Understand your unique value – As you gain clarity about your authentic self as God made you, prayerfully and intentionally look for the uniqueness and value these traits bring to the various areas of your life and the lives of others. Ask others who are close to you and know you best and have your best interest at heart what is unique about you and what strengths they see in you. You often will be surprised at what parts of who you are you’ve taken for granted that others find significant and even admire. Ask God to help you to see yourself the way He sees you and embrace your worth.
- Understand God’s role in your walking in His plan for your life – When you don’t know which path to take, God can give you direction. If you can’t find the strength to go on within the flesh, God can give you His strength. And there are times when His divine hand reaches down and moves in ways that are undeniably not a coincidence. He whispers into your spirit those things that you need to know. He fills your heart with passions to pursue. And he speaks truth to your mind so that if you listen and believe Him with the untainted trust of a child, you will begin to see yourself as He does. And as you gain more clarity of God’s will, you can choose to soothe your doubts and step out in courage to build more confidence with each new step forward.
- Connect with like-minded people you can learn from – Sometimes we feel stuck because we don’t have experience or expanded perspective in trying to change a behavior, work through a trial, or start a new endeavor. Seeking out knowledge and support from those who have been through what we are experiencing or have traveled farther down a similar path to our own can remove some of our uncertainty, doubt and stress. And this also helps to build more confidence when we gain more knowledge and progress.
- Build relationships with like-minded people who will walk with you – God never meant for us to go it alone. In addition to connecting with people who have gone before us, being in relationship with people with whom we can “do life together” is important. It can make all the difference when like-minded people walk with you to encourage you when you need uplifting, support you when the path gets hard, and hold up your vision for you if it starts to fade. Intimate spiritual companions walking alongside us add joy to our journey.
- Seek support and to be a support – Don’t take for granted praying for community as God hears our prayers and desires for us to walk together. Not everyone will be comfortable asking for support, so listening for God to lead us to be an encouragement to others is a way for us to be a blessing.
A Sacred Space to Cultivate Clarity, Confidence and Community
For women who want to joyfully pursue their God-given purpose while confidently walking in what God is calling them to in daily life, I’ve launched the Christian Woman Life Purpose Community Facebook group to create a safe and sacred space to cultivate more clarity, confidence and community on our path of purpose.
This group is for you if you…
- feel your heart longing for more than just going through the motions of life at home or work, and want to know what God is calling you to and live it out every day
- long to walk in your God-given purpose, but you’re struggling to find it in your everyday life
- need more confidence to step out into the dreams God placed in your heart
- want to walk alongside like-minded women on your path of purpose
Walk with us as we walk with God to be encouraged to embrace your individual design and inspired to pursue God’s purposes for all areas of your daily life, as well as the dreams God has planted in your heart. I welcome you to share about this purposeful group if someone you know would benefit from this type of community.
Christian Life Coaching Reflections:
- What types of things are distracting you or taking up space in your day that are not producing purposeful fruit?
- What do you tell yourself that hinders you stepping out into what God is calling you to do?
- In what areas of your life do you need more clarity of God’s will?
- Where are you lacking confidence and need support?
- What needs aren’t being met by your current relationships that you could intentionally seek community to fill?